Separation or divorce can be difficult, and it can be even more complicated when children are involved. But, it is crucial to put your children’s needs first and ensure they are provided for emotionally, physically, and mentally. You can achieve this by prioritising their wellbeing and working towards a parenting relationship that is healthy and positive for all involved.

In this blog, I look at the following types of parenting so that you can decide which one would best suit your family:

• Collaborative Parenting (or Co-parenting)

• Birdnesting

• Parallel Parenting

• Distant Parenting

• Supervised Parenting

When children learn about their parents’ separation or divorce, they can have different experiences and reactions depending on many influential factors: age, personality, understanding, parents’ behaviour, hostility, and level of support… However, what all have in common is that they will go through a period of grief, even if the split is amicable and spend time with both parents regularly.

Children may feel a range of emotions like sadness, frustration, anger and anxiety, which can translate into emotional and behavioural difficulties: becoming naughty or demotivated, being more aggressive and controlling, or becoming quiet and withdrawn. This new situation can also make some children feel insecure. Naturally, these strong emotions and behaviour can be brought into school, affecting their social and emotional wellbeing and their concentration, ability to engage or interest in learning, which can consequently impact their academic performance.

Parenting during a healthy relationship is not easy. However, co-parenting after a separation or divorce can be even more challenging and feel impossible, especially when you bring into the mix the high emotions, relationship issues and the wish to cut ties with your ex. You are bound to face some challenges.

Today I’m going to share with you some practical tips to help you improve the quality of your co-parenting relationship and, consequently, offer your children the stability, security, and love they need. How you and your ex, as parents, behave can strongly influence your children's mental and emotional wellbeing and how they adjust to this new chapter of your lives.